|Advice needed: Art and Fallen Friendships
||[Feb. 6th, 2013|12:45 pm]
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Here's the deal in a nutshell. I had a friend (and ex) who liked to do art. On occasion said friend would do art for me (like for my birthday or something). |
The friend and I have since had a falling out, and looking at the art pieces reminds me of bittersweet things. But it IS good art. So I've kept it so far.
However, at the moment, I'm trying to clean my room and cut down on the amount of just general stuff I own (running out of storage space, trying to avoid a hoarder situation xD).
So my question is... what to do with said friend's art? Do I return it somehow? Keep it? It seems such a shame to trash it...
For that matter, how many people here keep their old art? Do you keep it? What about when it tends to build up? All the sketches and line art and such.
If you can, I'd recommend putting it in storage. Perhaps someday the hurt won't be there anymore, and you can actually enjoy the art again.
I'm probably a terrible person to answer this, because I do tend to keep everything, especially my own stuff! But art is personal. Your friend made it for you, so giving it back would put your friend in a place where they would either sell it or trash it, because it wouldn't mean the same thing to them. If it has meaning for you, keep it. If it doesn't trash it. Some pieces will probably mean more than others. Just remember a few years down the road, they won't be as painful to look at, but you might regret throwing away something special.
I'd definitely try to return it before I'd throw it away — depending on how bad your falling-out was, anyway, as returning it might be taken the wrong way if it just happens out of the blue. If you're still on speaking terms, mentioning it to your former friend may be an idea. Otherwise, you could perhaps put it up for sale somewhere.
If all that doesn't work out and you're definitely faced with the choice of keeping it vs. throwing it away... just do what you feel is right. And if you want to throw it away but can't bring yourself to do it, maybe scan it? That way, it'd not be entirely lost, but you could rid yourself of the physical objects.
2013-02-07 05:59 pm (UTC)
Stick it all in a binder, put it in a box, wait a few years. Art will still be art later.
Give it back maybe? If you don't want to see them send it in the mail. I had the same thing happen when my best friend ditched me.